Adolescence stage is one exciting and at the same time difficult stage to be encountered by a person. It is somehow known to be the curiosity stage. They will be wondering about sex. This will be a horrifying truth for the parents. I believe it is the role of the parents to properly educate their teenager about sex.
At this stage teens are most of the time shy in sharing their thoughts to their parents. They somehow prefer to open up to their friends. Oftentimes, the parents are the last to know on the whereabouts of their teenagers. Sex will be an awkward topic for a parent and a teenager to talk about. Even so, parents don’t have much choice. Better be the first to give information to your child before anyone could teach them false info with regards this sensitive matter. When you start teaching your teen with this subject, don’t do a sermon. Talk to your teen as a friend, in this way they will listen to you. Avoid repeating the word don’t, teens sometimes do foolish things even if you said it’s not good. They will end up agreeing to you without understanding. Instead, make your teen feel you are open-minded, avoid reacting differently if they opened up about something you disagree. Start teaching them with regards this matter at early adolescence so to establish openness. Be approachable and ready with every question they will ask. Observed and pay attention to every questions asked by your kids.
Let your teen know that it is normal to think about sex, whatever the technique of relaying this message will be. In this stage they will be occupied with the subject sex. Curiosity level is high, and they somehow feel humiliated and guilty. Never let them sense that you are disgusted if ever they ask you bizarre questions or have shown unusual behavior. Just let them understand that it is part of growing. Be relaxed and calm when talking about this matter, so your teen will feel the same. Admit to your child that it is an awkward subject and explain that it is important to be tackled. Don’t just concentrate on the negative aspect like STDs and pregnancy. Your teen may just develop fear and bad perception on it.
Teens in nature are afraid of what their parents would say about them. When talking about sex with your teen avoid being too assertive, they might end up hiding the truth. I agree that we have values to follow but be reminded that when it comes to sex the choice is there’s to make. The parents’ task is to guide them in making a decision. Allow your teenager to speak out, so that you will know when they are open about sex.